I feel like writing a lot about what’s happening in my life, but somehow it’s not happening. maybe I should say that I have become more lazy with the second baby. ok, now I need to give a name for the second one, hmmm.. Chunty?? sounds matching to Bunty na.. its an obsession, can change it.
I should admit that I am being little careless with Chunty or after taking care of Bunty and office, I dont seem to have any energy for Chunty. I keep forgetting to take my folic acid, or nausea pills. I just puke out everything after every meal. I don’t remember how it was during BUnty time. weird na, yes I don’t remember how it was. What I remember is ,I used to be hungry always. My temper was bad. This time I dont feel like having any food. Best part is I am no more hygiene conscious. I eat the road side pani-puri before going home, rely on Amul Badam milk. Yup dont have energy to cook anything after going home, so I have something outside and then go home.
Another Big thing I realised is, it’s not easy to have second baby with a toddler around. So many things we do, though we are not supposed to do. like carrying the toddler around. Sleeping next to them, realise the mistake only after they kick us in sleep. though you want to sleep after going home from work, it’s not possible as the First one is eagerly waiting for you to do the Homework and you also need to run around to feed the toddler.
Suddenly at home there is pressure to have a Boy baby, as though it’s in my hands. it’s all just because I already have a girl baby. What is their problem I don’t understand. MIL is praying to all possible God for a grandson. Best part is even after all that she doesnt take care of me. She still expect me to be normal and do all my regular house works.
Hormones are making me think all weird. Suddenly I feel hubby doesnt care for me anymore.( he is busy with new project and new office). but still he has to talk to me and ask about my health right?. He is not doing it. the same hubby took “work from home” option during BUnty time, he used to cut all fruits and pack it for me. Now all that is gone. he calls to check on his parents and his daughter and not me. It is making me feel little lonely. He should ask about my nausea, monthly check ups and diet na. How can he just ignore just because it’s my second time??
I am tired so soon, Just praying God that this phase runs quickly. But totally worried how would I take care of Bunty and Chunty alone.. :(. happy that I would take 6 months leave and go to my parents place. :).
I still wondering how to break this news.. But I feel Like sharing it you People, as i cant keep anything inside me hidden for so long.
I was really disturbed that i missed my period. it put me in worry. I secretly bought a Pregnancy test kit, actually two for some weird reason. I couldnt sleep all night feeling nervous, when I could no longer wait I did the test. Test turned out to be positive. I immediately called hubby.. but being a sunday, he didnt pick up the call.. How on earth will he be awake at that odd hour. I msged him, waited patiently till he called.
My mom was with me at that time. Intelligent her saw my test card and found out even before me informing her. She just smile sand said valentines-day gift for ur hubby?? ok , I will till you officially announce it to me.. I dont why, But i started crying( call it the hormones).
Hubby called me. he was really cool about it. he said he wouldn’t believe till the doctor confirms it, But i had already done the test twice. I was crying more. we did have small Blame game saying its Ur/my fault.
Was back to sense only after he called back and said, congrats. So, when are we seeing the Doctor. yes, I was blushing this time. He thought I was not ready for the 2nd one, I thought he didn’t want the second one etc etc. Finally, all the misunderstanding were sorted out.
Next day, met doctor, but she trusted me so much that she didnt ask me to take test in her lab. So, again i had a feeling what if the home test was showing wrong result. ( TV SOAP serial effect, It happened to sandhya of Diya aur bhati hum) . waited for Hubby to come from chennai, and went for scan next weekend. Yup, scan reports confirmed that I am 6 weeks pregnant.
then I was trying to analyse what made me upset with the results at the beginning.
1.most of my college friends have still not got married.
2. none of my school friends, except 2 have kids. that also they delivered only last year.
3.gap between Bunty and to be born is only 3 years.
4. I am due for promotion this year. So, my appraisal and my due date will clash.
5. I had booked tickets for Andman , not sure if i can travel.
6. another break from carrer, locking up the house for 6 months.
7. new car which i bought
8. when everybody of this generation are talking about one kid or no kids here i am going to have 2.
9. will i be able to manage 2 kids on my own with hubby staying away.
10. and will Bunty accept a new little one in her life?
then finally I convinced myself saying that its my life, my wish. why should I really compare myself with others life. I will have 2 kids before I turn 30, with a nice age gap. what if i loose a promotion this year, i would get it next year. kids are Gods gift, when I am blessed my I should be happy.Yes i Know few of my friends are undertaking treatment, and have to go for IVF.
So finally Now i am happy, and announcing that I am 8 weeks Pregnant. I know I could made the announcement little better, but my confusion took front seat.. yet to reveal the news to my office colleagues. not sure how to tell my boss that i am pregnant. :(.
|Title:||Prisoner, Jailor, Prime Minister|
|Authored By:||Tabrik C|
|Publication Year:||2014 January|
|Number of Pages:||323 Pages|
|Book Type:||Fiction Book|
|Book Type:||Non Fiction Book|
Overview of the book:
India has a new Prime Minister but is Siddhartha Tagore the product of his genius or of his dangerous mind? India is on edge, as a subversive internal revolt against the Constitution and the threat of Jehadi terror of an unthinkable level, are looming on the horizon. Ringing Shivas damaru in and out of Parliament, a sudden turn of karma catapults outsider Siddhartha Tagore – a conflicted genius, music maestro and prodigal son, with forceful views on China and Pakistan into national prominence as the head of the Opposition Alliance and finally as the newly elected Prime Minister of a disturbed nation. But buried secrets are being resurrected and threaten to expose the past. Twisted within the double helix of menacing politics and hidden lust, Prisoner, Jailor, Prime Minister is a scorching account of Siddhartha Tagores fascinating journey from Harvard to 7 Race Course ad.
with nearing election and recent political stunts on Telangana and other Bill, it is the most apt book of the season. the scenario is 80′s to present time frame. the book is about, Siddhartha Tagore, a music maestro, Tibet lover and political mastermind , how he takes the power, from Harvard’s hallowed halls to a political leader, the prime minister .
it just not a book on politics or power, but it’s a thriller, it deals with forbidden lust and dark secrets. it’s a mix of technology and current trends dealing with iPad and Harley Davidson. Though I got lost in-between may be because of the changing time frames, it’s still a page turner. I liked the way how each character unfolds itself after every important incident, it makes the reader gripped to the book.
Know the author : Tabrik C
Tabrik C is a political enthusiast, perfumer and internet entrepreneur. He has a post-graduate degree in History from St. Stephen’s College Delhi, where he was the president of the student’s union. His special interest lies in observing, analyzing, predicting and debating the rise and fall of political personalities and their influence on the destiny of nations and individuals.
First let me quote few examples:
Person A: He saves all the money in his PF account. He would buy grocery in minimum. say, only 1/2 kg sugar. when his wife say its over, he would take his bike and go to the nearest shop and buy it. basically they dont buy and store anything. He doesnt believe in Hight-fi schools. He would join the kids in near by school, he will do the teaching part after going back home.
He saved for 12 years, and then borrowed little money from brothers and father without interest and bought a 2 bedroom house. Yes, he didnt take any loan. he bought a house in his budget and he says he would do the interiors when he has money.
Person B: This person is habituated to using credit card and loans. So, he bought a house as soon as he got a job. He took loans from private bank as they were also giving a top loan and person loan with house loan. He bought a 3 bedroom house in same floor as Person A. he manages house on credit basis only. i.e, he would shop for thing and stock it up, buy cloths and gadgets in EMI schemes. but ya, he is regular in paying all his bill, but he has NO savings.
Now, both A and B are there. A had to forgo so many So called luxury, wait till he has all money to buy the house. But B, thought he is really young, managed to buy a house, but its in loan. B is enjoying the life without saving, but has everything. A waited to fulfill his desires one by one.
whom do u think is really smart?? its always a question in my mind. Is it good to buy things In EMI schemes??
A home is generally a place that is close to the heart of the owner, and can become a prized possession. It has been argued that psychologically “The strongest sense of home commonly coincides geographically with a dwelling. Usually the sense of home attenuates as one moves away from that point, but it does not do so in a fixed or regular way.” Since it can be said that humans are generally creatures of habit, the state of a person’s home has been known to physiologically influence their behavior, emotions, and overall mental health. People may become homesick when they leave their home over an extended period of time. Places like homes can trigger self-reflection, thoughts about who someone is or used to be or who they might become.( from wiki)
But, there are days or years in life, when we actually stay out of our homes for our studies or work. Most of the times, its college hostel, working women hostel or we stay as paying guest in someone else home. It’s not that we just stay there for few days or months, most of the times, its more than a year. All of would have had stupid, smart, troublesome or helping roommates. In-spite of all odds, we do make it place/space personal.
it’s a single room with a bed, work table, a book shelf and chair,bean bag chair.
I just had to choose a Orange colour from the shade card. In fact sample bought was enough for me to paint a single wall. They are small 200 ml paint packs which can be bought at Asian Paints Colour World outlet, which can be used to sample how the colour would look on the wall and then the final decision can be taken. It offers a low-risk small trial pack so that customers are more comfortable in taking their final decision.
Now, I had to separate my work area from my sleep area. So, i decided to paint, the wall area starting from my table to the door end with orange to give it a formal look. To create a sense of balance, rest of the places were painted half white. I got inspired by Asian paints Spring dairy stencil design, but i could afford to buy and try it. hence i made my own design with washable crayons and paints.
To give a personal touch , made a stencil and used the washable crayons to make patterns on the wall and ceiling.
Mom sent two polka dot bed sheets. I just used them as curtain, little to cover the night lamp.
bringing flowers once a week from florist made my table graceful. I just used a glass tumbler, which was painted white as the flower vase.
At last, not all House owners like the idea of you painting the walls yourself, until you do well and show them, you made their house a better home.
Do you guys have any special attachment to the transit homes?? did you ever try anything to make it look special and personalised??
note: the prizes, especially the laptop is so temptingm making me write so many posts. am i not incresing the probalitlity ?? Please Do read my other post
Now that all of you know that I am an Architect. So, where ever I go, I pick up the authentic fabric, colours, artifacts of the particular place. I have travelled a lot across India. Incase, I am asked to build a house with all the things I have collected and seen, it would look like the following. Of course i would design house which is green in nature. An eco-friendly building. let me explain starting with creativity on the looks, interior and colours and end with ecofriendly at end in just 10 points.
I made 3 collages, would explain all the picture starting from first left clockwise.
1. bright colours from Rajasthan for the fabric on beds. they are the natural colour dyed and Cane furniture of India combines simplicity and comfort, with high aesthetic appeal.
2. Green colour boxes are hand painted kept on the wooden dressing would bring it more colour and green creeper would add life to the room.
3.traditoanl photographs depicting indian ppl will be used as cushion cover. Indoor plans would be kept as contract to plan paint on the background.
4. a green colour painted buddha kept on aluminum trunk would give the ancient feel to the garden. all the artifacts are handmade of recyclable products.
5. a royal magenta colour silk saree is used as curtain and sofa cover adding on colour and royal look to the Shah jhahans photograph kept in the room. old silk saree which has been lying in the wardrobe for years will get new life with the creativity.
6. a variety of silk fabric and colours are used as cushion cover to emphasis the colours in the house.
6. I used carpet tile flooring. which is made of recycled wood and can be replaced in parts when damaged. it would qualify as a green material for flooring.
7. I use big windows, like the arched one shown in the photograph, which would bring in more light, I think all of know the importance of natural light and its effect on the paint used in the interior. with this I bring in more light and air inside my home.
8. I use recycled wood to make my furniture. would paint it with bright colours to give it a contemporary look.
9. use pebbles in the center courtyard, which would also act as rainwater catchment for rain water harvesting.
10. last but not the least, I would use ASIAN PAINTS -Green Assure from Asian Paints is more than just VOC (Volatile Organic Compound) Safe.
Now a good news, you dont need to be an Architect or interior decor to make your house look beautiful. what you just need to do is just a phone call to a toll free number. Just read the above steps, follow it, your dream home is ready. In fact the website give you various designs available, colour theory, shade cards, patterns that can be implemented and what not?? So guys, you just need to finalize on the budget, rest is all at your door steps.
note: all are googled images. I could have written more on green building, that would take away reader interest, and it’s not much related to the contest. hence stopped with the interior. Hope you like my post.