Soldier for women:

I thought I would never remember this or talk about it. But somehow I felt, if I don’t open up now, I would loose a chance to appreciate two men in my life who stood for me at the time of trouble and want to it out of my system by talking about the  culprit who spoil the name of all men in the world.

I shifed to this new city for my job. I was just newly married. We had tough time deciding if I had to take this new job or not. Because it was my passion to work in a research organization, hubby and in-laws agreed with my decided to join.  I came to the city. Company’s guest house had only 6 rooms in it. As I went in as a couple, I was given the double bed room with a condition that, I have to vacate if a senior officer comes to the city. My luck was bad that I was given two days to vacate. Me while it was Ashadam ( a telugu/tamil month) when auspicious things are not done. Not even shifting the house. So the owners were not ready to give the house.  Oh yes, I didn’t look married to most of them. i.e I didn’t wear saree, sindoor or toe ring during my first day of house hunting.  Sadly there were no brokers too.(sadly)  I had to dress myself to fit into  place. One person was ready to give if belonged to certain community. We ditched that house. After so many hurdles we found a house, but problem was they would give me the house only after 10 days.

Hubby had to leave as his leave was getting over. On suggestion of a colleague of my office, I met somebody near the house I picked. Instantly I bonded with the lady. She asked me to consider her to be my sister and stay with her for those 10 days. I thought if I could stay for two days, I would be sent to another city for my induction, and come back to stay for a day. By that time my rented home would be ready.  Hubby was in a dilemma, but we didn’t have a choice, I had to stay in their house.

The ladys husband made few jokes as we were newly married, we didn’t take it serious. I stayed with them. He tried talking adult stuff, I would ignore it. ( as it was not really harming). Then I went for induction came back. He being a senior officer in local state govt office, had influence and got me gas connection easily and lot more things. The lady helped me to do all local shopping for my new house. It was the last day for me in their house.  That man, asked me to return the favor by showing porn in internet. Now that was heights. I couldn’t tolerate it. I felt helpless in the new city. Telling at home means leaving the job and packing up to be stay at home wife.

Yes I shamelessly cried. I Came out of house, called my colleague. He travelled 15 kms to come to the house where I was living, he simply said, “ pack up”.  He was not married, a bachelor, I knew him just for about 10 days. He immediately called my hubby and informed him about everything. Hubby felt bad for leaving me alone. My friend, asked my hubby if it was ok if I stayed in his house for that night, as my hubby was coming the next day. We finished talking  on phone, my friend went inside that house and packed my things for me as I was reluctant to step again inside the house.  Just before my friend came out, I heard a hard slapping noise. I didn’t ask him what happened. Neither did he say. (during this that lady was not at home) . she still feels I left their house without telling them anything. I feel guilty for not letting the lady know what her husband is upto?.

Now yet another thing what is troubling me is why didn’t I react? Why didn’t I slap him. It would have given my peace of mind.  But being new to city, judged by newlywed husband and in-laws, faithfulness for staying in their house and having has their food troubled me at that time.

But I was happy that a stranger colleague then who came for me, a hubby who trusted me and supported in all front makes me happy.

Thanks Mr. Anand for being there for me. But for you support on that day, I don’t know what would have happened to me. Thanks for let me stay in the house for that night, not bothering about your owner kicking you out of the house, or your parents thinking bad of you. ( as I said it was difficult for a married women to get house, he is bachelor and took risk of making me stay there for that night). Thanks for cheering me up and not letting me loose trust on MEN.
This post is a part of #Soldierforwomen in association with

8 thoughts on “Soldier for women:

  1. Disgusting this is AM. I can’t imagine the levels to which some people stoop 😦

    Very happy to know your soldiers ! I pray it shouldn’t happen but if you ever confront the man or someone like that, make sure you give the right dose of medicine. We really need to be our own soldiers.

  2. kudos to Mr.Anand and your husband.. It is only because of people like them that hope is still lingering around the world.. May God bless them.

  3. Oh dear I so sorry to hear you had to go through it, don’t worry why you didn’t react to him. I would have reacted the same way as you. I am so proud of your colleague friend and husband for their thoughts and actions.

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