My mother is house-wife. She had this craze for novels and read them in one stretch without eating, sleeping and nothings goes into her head, even a bell or phone ringing. She expects things to be in order and hates people who disturb her routine or sleep for that matter. But she did change a lot just bring her children up.
When I was in school:
I had a friend who was physically challenged. Nobody sat next to him, as he always used to hit or pinch our classmates. My mom simply asked me to sit next to him. she said,” He would become your best friend”. Later it did happen that we (me and him) sat together for following many years and became the best friends.
She taught me to overlook the in-differences and just look at the best to be gained with patience.
When I was a teenager:
Whenever I had a new crush in school, my mom could find out easily. But she never stopped me from talking to the person. I was really surprised. One day, when I was lying next to her on bed, she said,” do you know what, there is lots of option”. I got confused at her blank statement. She stated,” when you are in school, you find some boy really interesting and think that’s love. But when you go to your junior college, you will find someone more interesting, college you might think that you have found your true love. When you are working you will say, where was this person all my life?. “.
She was telling me not to get fixed to one guy, but to keep my options open.
She was true. My crush list did change often.
When I went to college:
She became my best friend. She wrote all the cinema theaters in a piece of paper and the bus routes with bus number written them. She said,” you can go for movie any time you want to. May be because of that, I never went for a movie during my first year of college; as I felt I had permission to do it, I can go any time.
I learnt giving freedom is too a way of controlling unwanted behaviors.
When I went to office:
I used be really nervous when I went for my first job, She said,” don’t panic, this is not end of life, you have many more job opportunities outside and nobody can stop you from giving the best”.
I learnt to work without expectation but looked for satisfaction.
When I got married:
She said,” It is not necessary to extend pain. When you know that a relation doesn’t work, you have all right to walk out of it.”
She gave me hint that it was not easy to be in a relation with a person for long. There is always a give and take. It depends on me, how I look at it.
When I had my first kid:
She just smiled and said,” you will grow with the baby”.
So I will learn to be good mom, as when the situation and needs demand. It does take time.
I am still learning, this learning is not by force but by choice. I would cherish this life long and surely would modify to fir my daughter and use it on her. This post is small to explain her capabilities and services to us, it can never be repaid. I love you mom.