Wechat

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tomorrow is my history exam. I have so much to study. after getting freedom, now I feel I don’t have freedom to choose what to study. I need to study the complete syllabus and write what teacher expects me to write and get marks to satisfy my parents. hmmm, let me try WeChat and talk to few people, and find out if they can help me??

let me call, Gandhi ji, Bhagat Singh as there is big chapter on them, will pull in my best friend then he can also benefit for the exam from the conversation.

Me: ( calling B) hey, Barat, how are you? how much have you studied?

Barat: i don’t know. i am confused what to study and how to start?

Me: shall we call Gandhi ji directly and know his struggle directly from him then reading from book written by somebody else?

Barat: don’t forget Bhagat  Singh , history mam said he too is important. a sure question is going to come about him

Me: yes, i want to try this WeChat, so let me take this opportunity to call them.

Gandhi ji: hello beta, why have you called me at this odd time?

Me: bappu ji, i am having exam tomorrow, will you help me?

Gandhi ji: no beta.. i dont cheat in exam or pass on Bit paper or show you scan images like Rajini in Robot?

Me: wow Bappu ji, you are so upto date .. you seem to know a lot about our era, but we are struggling to read about your freedom struggle

Gandhi ji: passion beta. you need to like what you do.. then you will like everything.. Remember Surya’s Dialogue in Gajini???

Barat: Yes Bappu, if u like doing the difficult thing, then difficult thing also will seem easy. but you saw the movies which is much easier then reading history text books.

Gandhi Ji: great. hmmm.. so what is problem now?

me: that i have history exam tomorrow, teacher said she will ask question about you and Bhagat Singh.

Bhagat Singh  then why don’t you talk to your History teacher instead of us? you need to develop courage to ask what you want?

Gandhi Ji: Listen Bhagat, they have exam, if they ask the teacher about the question paper, then they will follow the wrong path. they should be truthful.

Bhagat Singh: what truth is there? getting marks is ultimate goal. what path we choose is not necessary.

Barat: Sabash Sari anna poti( sabash, now that’s a nice competition)

me: stop stop. now just tell me what were your principles, what all you did in short. so that i can write and get marks.

Barat: what if they ask for 15 marks question? let them tall long story only. even I forget few lines in between, I can make up by Rang de basanti movie. hey by the way can we call  Amir and Om Prakash , so they can tell us better, I mean in the story format so I will remember better.

me: ok let me call them too..

Amir: Hi hi  hi.. its nice to see you all..

me: hello sir.. but we are not in press meeting. you can be casual now.

Amir: i am always cool.

Barat: no you are perfectionist.

Amir: smiles. so beta, why did you call me?

Barat: wait sir, we are calling Om Ji also

Amir: so you want me to do a movie for you?

Barat: no sir

Me: we want you to talk about your character in Rang de basanti movie.

Amir: you mean that? hmmm… actually i am out of that character for now. ask me about my new Avatar in female role.

Barat: but my history teacher would not accept that answer for her freedom struggle question na.

Om: this is the reason i have stopped making  such movie. i want to convey something, this generation understands something else.

me: how did we disappoint you sir

Om: everybody saw foreign lady, Soha’s dressing, Amir bottoms up, songs. they saw everybody’s acting, but not the story line

Barat: but my history teacher said it’s a good movie. we can learn lot about the freedom fighters from it.

Om: ( he feels irritates) call your history teacher in line.

Me: oh.. let me link her up too

Teacher: what is this.. you people are calling me at this time? when i taught in class you people slept, now when i am sleeping you are waking me to ask doubts

Barat: no mam, sorry. Director Om wants to talk to you.

teacher: yes sir, tell me.

Om: what made you think Rang de basant i is all about freedom fighters of that era.

teacher: that is what you showed in black and white in movie na.

Om: so you missed seeing all colour part?

teacher : no sir, we all saw how two couples fell in love, and but you never showed how she got pregnant??

Om: furious.. you lady.. you cannot take conclusion from what have shown in a movie with so much of money spent , actors acting, etc etc

Amir: yes OM, you didn’t give me a chance to be close with the heroine, i would have the scene perfect you see.

Om: shut up and get lost.

Amir: gets irritated and goes offline’.

teacher: so where were we?

Om: its my line. don’t copy. i wanted to show how this generation can fight for their right, making impact on society and for its betterment. how they can fight against corruption in this nation taking inspiration from our freedom fighters.

teacher: oh.. you never gave subtitles na sir, so i didn’t understand.

Om: its not worth talking to you. i am quitting .

Gandhi ji: peace people. you need to talk it out and not fight. what do you say Bhagat?

Bhagat Singh:  i have lost hopes on India after listening to the conversation. if i am still there, they might take out different meanings for “Inquilab Zindabad!” also. let me go back to sleep and assume India future after my death.

Gandhi ji: hmmm.. there is no patience.

me: you mean Gandhi giri?? oops Gandhism??

Gandhi Ji: now dont call all circuit family. i have had enough.

Teacher: tell us what you wanted to tell Bappu?

Gandhi Ji: there is no such thing as “Gandhism”, and I do not want to leave any sect after me. I do not claim to have originated any new principle or doctrine. I have simply tried in my own way to apply the eternal truths to our daily life and problems…The opinions I have formed and the conclusions I have arrived at are not final. I may change them tomorrow. I have nothing new to teach the world. Truth and non-violence are as old as the hills.

Barat: so u mean to say we can too make history and its keeps changing with time.

Amir: i am back.

me: ok Amir, thanks for returning. we were discussing on Gandhi ji’s saying. he says we don’t have to study about him, as they were solutions of him at that particular time.

Amir: exactly. did you see Tare Zameen Par?? that is what i emphasized. why this kind of education system? why “by heart “so much and write for the sake of exams? live for you passion and create an impression . dont leave it as a mark in history. give place for others to make their own story.

Teacher: in all tears.. thanks for teaching me a valuable lesson.

Barat: doesn’t that mean, i don’t have to write history exam tomorrow?

me: is that mam?

teacher: no, you have to learn about them, but need to by heart and vomit in exam, but you have take your interpretation. learn for not sake of marks, but out of interest.

Barat: last minute learning is not the solution.

me: so, I wasted all night talking to you, and gaining nothing. i could have at least slept or thought of a solution on improvising the education system in India.

jai hind!!!

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note: this post is not written to hurt anybody’s sentiments on freedom fighters, teachers or movie starts. i just wanted to bring out the change in thinking about the education system which still follows “by heat and vomit ” procedures, expect kids to remember all the dates, war’s movements and names with places. finally the essence of the history is lost.

BOOK REVIEW: SHOES OF THE DEAD

 

Title:	Shoes of the Dead
Publisher:	Rupa Publication
Author:	Kota Neelima
Edition:	Hardcover
Language:	English
ISBN:	8129123967
EAN:	9788129123961
No. of Pages:	288

The Main Characters-

Sudhakar Bhadra- if not him, then this story is not there. he is a farmer, who commits suicide as he is not able to pay debts.

Gangiri- Sudhakar’s [ he is the brother of Sudhakar, a school teacher settled in urban town. he fights for the justice and his brother, in long run for the farmers.

Keyur Kashinath son of Vaishnav Kashinath who is a party’s general secretary and politician.

Videhi, wife of a rich industrialist and assistant director of the Centre for Contemporary Societies who comes up with a bizarre solution to combat farmer suicides by withdrawing all the subsides proved to them.

it begins with a suicide of a farmer at Mityalay in south central india. Unfortunately, the Mityala community fakes out the news of suicide committed by several such farmers and cancels out on the compensation to their families .his brother, a city dweller, educated and working as a school teacher gets affected by this and takes the case seriously and fights for rights. in the process of finding justice, he quits his job, and he fights for all other farmers justice, and doesnt want anyone else to commit suicide. he tries to figure out the core reason for his brother’s death. when he tries to reason, he finds out that, there were deceitful money lenders, bank mangers with targets, local MPs with elections coming , district collector, agriculture officer etc. with so much of expense to borne and no job, he delivers justice to the widows of the farmers. he is assisted by a journalist throughout the book.

the book gives insight of  working of Indian political and democratic system of India. it also tells about how Politian’s behave for the sake of votes.

the best part of the book is characterization. how the story is built to support each character. you feel like you have heard this story from your grandmother who is into farming or read it in news paper.

a very different book from the kind i have read in recent times. touching. this book gives inspiration to fight for a true cause. though slow, proves to be worth the wait to finish. language is simple, straightforward.

Kota Neelima is a political editor with The Sunday Guardian    and    a    Research    Fellow    for    South     Asia Studies at The Paul H. Nitze School of Advanced International Studies, Johns Hopkins University, Washington, DC. Her previously published work includes the novels Riverstones and Death of a Moneylender. Neelima lives in New Delhi and Washington, DC.

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Toke by Jugal Mody: book review

Title: Toke
Author: Jugal Mody
Publisher: Harper Collins India
ISBN: 978-9350293409
Genre: Fiction
Pages: 224
Source: Publisher
Rating: 3.5/5

This book is going to make you laugh aloud, unless you have inhabitations to THE SWEAR WORDS. This book is about Nikhil. He spends a normal life with protective parents, he works under a supervisor who constantly finds faults with him, a pretty girl who doesn’t acknowledge his crush, until Lord Vishnu appears to him in a dream and gives him a purpose to live, to save the world. He is given 72 hours to save the world. And everything changes around him.

Nikhil and his two friends join together to save the world. Then slowly two Japanese’s girls who are martial arts specialist join them. Nikhil’s crush too joins their group with yet another colleague. Mean while lost Vishnu goes out for vacation as he is no mood to take the 10^th avatar. He gives them the rescue button which would take them to the happy land. GOD keeps in touch with the group by having video conference when required.

I found it to be A simple book, with more of swear words and comedy. It gives an atmosphere of a software company. It’s kind of “read and move on” book. Nothing to take from it, nothing to get hurt about, it gives complete entertainment. I felt it was novel idea of bring in the god, the concept where an individual takes it up on him to save the world from becoming zombies. Breaking the monotony and making the GOD smoke with Nikhil and his friends, God going on a vacation. Fast paced book, you never know, but you have reached the last page of the book soon.

 This bookReview done for HarperCollins and indibloggers. 

 

Soldier for women:

I thought I would never remember this or talk about it. But somehow I felt, if I don’t open up now, I would loose a chance to appreciate two men in my life who stood for me at the time of trouble and want to it out of my system by talking about the  culprit who spoil the name of all men in the world.

I shifed to this new city for my job. I was just newly married. We had tough time deciding if I had to take this new job or not. Because it was my passion to work in a research organization, hubby and in-laws agreed with my decided to join.  I came to the city. Company’s guest house had only 6 rooms in it. As I went in as a couple, I was given the double bed room with a condition that, I have to vacate if a senior officer comes to the city. My luck was bad that I was given two days to vacate. Me while it was Ashadam ( a telugu/tamil month) when auspicious things are not done. Not even shifting the house. So the owners were not ready to give the house.  Oh yes, I didn’t look married to most of them. i.e I didn’t wear saree, sindoor or toe ring during my first day of house hunting.  Sadly there were no brokers too.(sadly)  I had to dress myself to fit into  place. One person was ready to give if belonged to certain community. We ditched that house. After so many hurdles we found a house, but problem was they would give me the house only after 10 days.

Hubby had to leave as his leave was getting over. On suggestion of a colleague of my office, I met somebody near the house I picked. Instantly I bonded with the lady. She asked me to consider her to be my sister and stay with her for those 10 days. I thought if I could stay for two days, I would be sent to another city for my induction, and come back to stay for a day. By that time my rented home would be ready.  Hubby was in a dilemma, but we didn’t have a choice, I had to stay in their house.

The ladys husband made few jokes as we were newly married, we didn’t take it serious. I stayed with them. He tried talking adult stuff, I would ignore it. ( as it was not really harming). Then I went for induction came back. He being a senior officer in local state govt office, had influence and got me gas connection easily and lot more things. The lady helped me to do all local shopping for my new house. It was the last day for me in their house.  That man, asked me to return the favor by showing porn in internet. Now that was heights. I couldn’t tolerate it. I felt helpless in the new city. Telling at home means leaving the job and packing up to be stay at home wife.

Yes I shamelessly cried. I Came out of house, called my colleague. He travelled 15 kms to come to the house where I was living, he simply said, “ pack up”.  He was not married, a bachelor, I knew him just for about 10 days. He immediately called my hubby and informed him about everything. Hubby felt bad for leaving me alone. My friend, asked my hubby if it was ok if I stayed in his house for that night, as my hubby was coming the next day. We finished talking  on phone, my friend went inside that house and packed my things for me as I was reluctant to step again inside the house.  Just before my friend came out, I heard a hard slapping noise. I didn’t ask him what happened. Neither did he say. (during this that lady was not at home) . she still feels I left their house without telling them anything. I feel guilty for not letting the lady know what her husband is upto?.

Now yet another thing what is troubling me is why didn’t I react? Why didn’t I slap him. It would have given my peace of mind.  But being new to city, judged by newlywed husband and in-laws, faithfulness for staying in their house and having has their food troubled me at that time.

But I was happy that a stranger colleague then who came for me, a hubby who trusted me and supported in all front makes me happy.

Thanks Mr. Anand for being there for me. But for you support on that day, I don’t know what would have happened to me. Thanks for let me stay in the house for that night, not bothering about your owner kicking you out of the house, or your parents thinking bad of you. ( as I said it was difficult for a married women to get house, he is bachelor and took risk of making me stay there for that night). Thanks for cheering me up and not letting me loose trust on MEN.
This post is a part of #Soldierforwomen in association with BlogAdda.com

You can apply for a sample and make a style for yourself, pick a hair style from the interactive TRESemmé India Youtube channel, or simply use your imagination! Tell us all about your ramp-ready hair style and win fantastic prizes!

firstly you dont need to cut ur hair for getting a new stylish look, simple ways of braiding it can give you a model look.

First I got the sample promptly after applying for it. Courier reached my office address, it came in neat packet, was happy to receive it and try it.

My next task was to watch interactive TRESemmé India Youtube channel. I was lucky that the site got opened in office.

What did I learn??

A lot of things from the video. First I realized that I used really bad method of washing my hair. no wonder my hair looks like a nest at the end of the wash. Washing the hair properly also helps the hair to look healthier and knot free.  Conditioning the hair is as important as washing them too. Here the Hair expert actually combs the hair after applying the conditioner, and then gives a wash. That was an important step I added to my routine.

Next, coming to the hairstyles:

the above are various hairstyle collage Google gives.. don’t be shocked. even i was, it looks so complicated na?? but tressme YouTube link gives simple hair-styling which can be made by self.

But once you get into YouTube link, you can see so many complicated hairstyles too.  I wouldn’t say much complicated, its just the difficulty level increased from easy. you can also choose a hairstyle according to your hair type, straight, wavy or curly.

Here i am posting links of the styles i would use for different occasions in my life. 

I would choose this hairstyle when I am asked go on a date:

at times , bun is the one which goes well with saree and really low neck blouse. A jewel inside the bun makes it a grand look.

this one is good, when I have to take kids out, be without bothering about the hair falling down in this scorching summer, yet look like a stylish mom.

this is nice when I have to impress and get that naughty look . this style has a romantic finish to it.. don’t ask me why, I feel it.

how did I forget, I need a hairstyle for special parties thrown by friends. This would go well with salwar.

Wow, the videos are amazing. Most importantly, the hairstyles can be made without taking help of anyone.  The hairstyles didn’t look like you had done too much, yet looked stylish. They are style which can be worn casually to office. Who wouldn’t like looking stylish in office.

So first let me post the pictures of the hairstyles I tried, few i tried to discover or invent.

now coming to ramp style. Any hairstyle, for me should go with the dress what a person is wearing. In case a person  doesn’t know what style, has no time, best style would be to clip the front hair, let it loose. When you walk on the ramp, the bouncing hair adds on to the grace with the catwalk.

This post was written as a part of the contest for TRESemmé India Youtube channel and Indiblogger.

memories of long hair

Advika and Ashreya are two beautiful sister. They were totally different from each other. May be you can say, the difference is because of the age difference between them too. 10 years made it as gen-next for each of them. Advika became almost a parent to Ashreya.

Advika, was really short tempered. She would go her shave her hair, when ever her dad scolded her. People say, that is the reason, she has beautiful hair today. Thank god her head shaving thing didn’t continue after certain age. She grew her hair long. People loved looking her from behind. The way her hair was braided. The way her hair swayed when she walked was a sight to see. Advika’s mom became cautious. She would not let her braid her in single plait or let her leave her hair loose. All the boys in neighborhood would wait for Sunday to arrive, when they can see Advika let her hair loose, with a small knot at the end. They would follow her till temple to see her walk, and long plait sway with her,

Ashreya on the other end, had a rough texture hair. she never let anyone touch her hair. only Adivka dared to go near Ashreya. Advika used to oil Ashreya’s hair. Advika was found of make up and hairstyles. She would watch the beauty programs on Tv and would try them on Advika. That’s she learnt all French plait, Spanish knot, bun, etc etc.

Both grew up being noted for their hair, for the length, varieties of braids they would were. During dance programs, they never used false hair. for obvious reasons Advika was radha in dance plays, where Krishna would pull her hair.

Things changed after Advika joined college. She studied in Chennai during the water crisis time. She was just given a bucket of water to bath. She couldn’t maintain her hair any longer. She decided to cut her hair short. But instead of help, that did more damage to her hair. hairfall started, people no more talked about her hair.

The intelligent younger one , who is still in school suggested  Dove Split Ends Rescue System to Advika. Things started changing a lot.  Things improved so much with the rescue system . a follower of her hair during the school days proposed her. His love letter was a collage of all the photos taken of Advika during the school time. On their wedding day, he confessed that he fell for her for the beautiful hair she has.

Advika thanked Ashreya for the great advice she gave . she started growing her hair once again, though the hair no more thick has t used to be, but the life in the hair is same as those old days.

This post is part of the Beautiful Ends to Your Beautiful Braids! Contest on Indiblogger.in, in collaboration with Dove Split Ends Rescue System.

p.s: sisters are none other than me and me my sis. unfortunately unable to trace those old photographs. 

Restoring Romance and Hair

Sunsilk Perfect Straight This post is a part IndiBlogger‘s review program for Sunsilk Perfect Straight Contest.

Product : Sunsilk Perfect Straight Shampoo & Conditioner

Net Vol : 80 & 90 ml respectively

MRP : Rs. 56/-

It is always nice to receive free samples. And getting a prize for using it and letting other know?? I know it feels good. Lets know little about the product and creator.

Sunsilk has once again teamed up with Yuko Yamashita, international Straight Hair Expert from Japan, to co-create the Sunsilk Straight range – a hair care and style solution for women who want to lock in their straight shape, direct from the shower.

Yuko, a global leader in straightening, says, “I have sought to re-create the magic moment between wet and dry hair, when your hair looks perfectly straight and beautifully aligned”.

The result is Sunsilk Straight, an advanced product formulated with Straight-Lock Technology, which actively controls and gently binds hair together into a simple and elegant, straight style.

The range includes Sunsilk Straight Shampoo, Sunsilk Straight Conditioner and a Sunsilk Straight Detangling Mist, all which utilised Straight Lock Technology to seal straightness and control the way in which the hair dries.

Get perfectly straight hair, direct from the shower.

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I know when we see the person, first thing we would look is…. Has she got that straight hair?? Hurry she has got, so now we can experiment with the product.

Day 1:

Knock at the door..

Hubby opens the door. Courier person gives a smiles and asks for me.

Hubby: Ashreyamom, parcel for you..

Me: coming.

Hubby: what did u order this time??

Me: I have not ordered anything. Still let me see.

I take the parcel from the courier person. Hubby looks at me more eagerly, wanting to know what it is. I open the box and find shampoo and conditioner bottle.

Hubby: cha, shampoo.. not phone or kindle??

Me: (with a smile on face.) yes, you can get them too, if you will tell me how the product is??

Hubby: don’t joke

Me: I am serious.

Hubby: look, I am already getting bald form front. I don’t want to do any experiment.

Me: hmmm, so u don’t want smart phone??

Hubby thinks for a while and leaves the room.

Day 2:

I find the shampoo bottle opened in bathroom.

Me: Ashreyadad.. why did you use my shampoo?

Hubby: look, I didn’t use it, I tried to smell it

Me: so how is it?

Hubby: it has a mild fragrance, fruity smell.

Me: ok, so what next?/

Hubby: you try it.

Me: then how will you review the product and win the prizes??

Hubby: ok, let play a game.

Me: ????%$#^$#

Day3:  took bath with shampoo and conditioner

Day 4: took bath with shampoo and conditioner

Day5: took bath with shampoo and conditioner

Review of the product:

Hurry, it’s working.  Ok, let me confess that I have a perfect straight hair. But end frizz, that spoils the look of my hair and doesn’t allow me to leave my hair loose. Because I put band after plaiting my hair, the curving effect because of the plait is seen on my hair even if I let it loose.

The smell after the hair is washed is good, not very strong compared to other shampoos I have used. Shampooing everyday didn’t spoil my hair or its texture, but made it smooth and look perfectly straight. I just let it air dry, which did magic to my hair. i.e no damage.

I walked out confidently with a letting my hair loose, and could easily tie up a high pony and maintain that stylish attire throughout the day.

My verdict: 4.5/5.

Hubby did use the shampoo. Isn’t it telling how good the shampoo is??

Oh I didn’t tell you what happened next three days and what was the game??

Hubby was blind folded. He would feel my hair before going to bath. He would rate it separately for the smell, texture and also check the hair fall from the comb I use. Then after three days of continuous use of shampoo, he completely forget about the game. Didn’t I tell you men would be men.

I came back from work, with a high pony. He never saw me such a hairstyle till now. That made the trick. He came to hold me, I managed to slip from his hand grip. He got hold of the clip I wore and removed it. My hair fell straight down, bringing in the romantic moment. (Should all the romance happen only on TV, when heroine is showed with hair flying back with fan placed in front of her etc). he felt my hair and said its felt so smooth and the new look really suits me. The shampoo has brought life to my dry wavy hair.

The shampoo not only restored the moisture in the hair and texture, it also restored the romance in relation.

Book review: Words to inspire the winner in YOU by Dr. Roopleen

Don’t allow temporary defeats in life destroy your confidence and leave permanent scars on your psyche.

We all aspire to achieve our goals and fulfill our dreams. But working towards goals is not easy. En route to success you will encounter hurdles, obstacles and rough patches. The down times can get really down and dishearten you.Setbacks and disappointments are an integral part of life there is no escaping them. While you cannot change your circumstances or bypass the hurdles, you can brace yourself up against the difficult times by maintaining a positive frame of mind and being determined to keep going against all odds.When the going gets tough and you are overwhelmed by the rough times, all you need is something to encourage you and keep you going. Words to inspire the winner in you will do exactly that. This collection of author’s original motivational quotes will lift up your spirits, inspire you and put you back on track.

Be thankful for all challenges you encountered. But for them you wouldn’t have recognized your true  strength.

·         ISBN: 978-93-81206-09-6

·         Genre : Self help

·         Price: Rs. 200/-

·         Pages: 160

·         Publishers: Power Publishers

 Review:

Don’t fear to dream big for in big dreams are seeds of great achievements.

The books had covered 146 topics starting from ability to You, sequenced alphabetically. Incase we are searching for a particular word, say love or life, we can just go to that page and get beautiful inspirational one-liners. It contains inspirational one-liner.  Even if you are not going through difficult faces in life, you can still read the book to get more inspirational in day today life. I would prefer reading one quote every day, and build the positive feeling inside me.

Introduction says , a person goes through various ups and downs in life. There are times, when a person completely loses his self confidence. It is very difficult for the other person to choose right words to comfort them. We need positive words to inspire and uplift the spirit of the person.

I feel the book can do wonders to such a person. In fact I was feeling depressed and felt I am living without any goals in life. But few quotes made me rethink, uplift my confidence.

I think everybody should posses this book, read one quote per day and make the life more meaningful and fulfill all dreams.

Don’t be afraid of setting high standards for yourself, fear only being contented meeting others standards that are less than what you are capable of achieving

About the author

Dr Roopleen is an Eye Surgeon, motivational counselor and speaker. She is the author of Principles of Success Made Easy-14 Easy Steps To Climb the Ladder of Success. Roopleen did her MBBS from GOMCO Patiala, MS from HIHT Dehradun and Super-Specialization from Sankara Nethralaya, Chennai. A hard core optimist and a firm believer of the power of positive thinking, Roopleen is passionate about serving people and being able to make a difference in their lives. Her vision is to inspire people to believe in themselves, pursue their dreams and live a meaningful life. A hard-core optimist and a die-hard advocator of positive thinking, Dr Roopleen is passionate about living life to the full. Her ideology in life and her blood group happen to be the same: ‘B-POSITIVE!’

You can follow her at www.drroopleen.com,www.twitter.com/Dr_Roopleen or mail herdrroopleen@rediffmail.com

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The best way to feel good about is to count your blessings and celebrate your achievements

Create or destroy- power of MIL.

Before I write anything , let me confess its stupid me who has given her rights to play with my emotions, or I have still no excelled the art of ignoring. The one and only reason being “Bunty”.

Now that hubby is returning back to India, I am not sure if I need to be happy or sad. I know I am thinking too much, but I can’t stop myself from foreseeing the trouble which would come when hubby is going to stay with us.

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I think a couple shares the responsibility of sharing the work in household. But in my case as I am away from hubby, need to mange everything.

I have to do regular stuff like others, paying bills( rent, milk wala, electricity, internet, landline, mobile, cable, watchman etc etc), buying grocery, cooking and cleaning the house. I also run behind banks, finding the best interest rates, taking loans, repaying them, discussing about it with hubby. I need to save, buy gold, property, and make investments in short. I need to think of tax savings, policy’s, premiums too. I need to keep track of Bunty’s health, vaccinations, regular check-ups.  In between had to learn driving as I couldn’t run, share autos, or take buses. I had to go and visit so many secondhand car dealers, see cars, bargain, take them to car technicians and finally bought one. As if all this is not enough, take MIL and Bunty out on every weekend, to park, mall or exhibition or anything they demand.

I have to cook. Mil had stopped cooking long back. I make a breakfast( proper south indian onces like idili, dosa, pongal, upma etc etc),chutney, dry curry, rasam, dal everyday. I also make sure I give something extra to eat every day. Say sweet potato, sprouts, or fruits and fresh home made juice.

I also work at office. i.e. deadlines, discussions and being an Architect I am asked to be creative. This drains half my energy.  keep in touch with ex-colleagues, remember b’days and wish all, send cards etc etc.

Once back home, cook rice for Bunty, and make tiffin for MIL and me. Feed Bunty, play with her, read stories for her,at times even give her bath . finally put her to sleep. And the routine follows. ( cant imagine doing homework with her when she goes to school).

Doing all these doesn’t pain me. The only things hurts me is after I all these, even if I don’t get appreciation, I don’t feel bad. But MIL complains to hubby that I am not taking care of her, and he stays countries away and scolds me on phone without knowing the truth. I feel hurt.

I don’t mind her telling around people, that she takes good care of her Bunty, does everything and forced to stay away from Chennai because of my work , and bitch about me as I am her DIL etc etc. I am hurt when she blackmails that she would leave me and go if I don’t treat her properly.

I don’t mind getting up extra hour before or sleeping an hour late and cleaning things when maids don’t turn up, or save extra money and buy her saree instead of buying something for me. I am hurt when she says that her son would leave me if she tells the truth about me( god only knows what is that). I am hurt that, after all I do everything, she keeps telling people that I treat her like maid.

Please someone tell me, what else I need to do, to make this DIL-MIL relation work?

Now that I have poured my heart, I am feeling light. What else to do, when my own ego stops me from crying.

Good news and Bunty tails.. :P

Hubby’s project is getting over this March end. He would be coming back to India. But he will be posted in Mumbai for a while.  Now I have started counting days. Just waiting for his tickets to be booked, secretly praying for “ no extension” for him in that project.

I have successfully stopped breast feeding for Bunty. I felt it was I high time I did something. She would be two years in two months, so had to stop her from pulling my dress in public.

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On weekend took Bunty out to the only mall in vizag( as per my knowledge) , CMR. Bunty likes it a lot, she plays few games there, eats pop-corn, and at times gets new dresses from MAX. I already planned to buy her few dresses, but to irritate her, I just skipped kids section and went ahead. She got so angry, she spilled all the pop-corn, threw always her bangle and next moment she was on floor crying. I had pull her to side to stop my embarrassment. Promised her that I would but her dress.

Bunty: amma, idi bagunda? ( is this nice?)

She never asks she wants it. She will just ask if its nice. She was adamant in choosing the pink  colour dresses only. May be that’s why they made pink as girls colour. Finally had to buy 7 dresses, 2 of MIL’s choice, 2 of mine and three of Bunty’s choice. All the way back she was holding the packet of cloths with smile on her face.

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Conversation on phone next day

Hubby: Bunty, hello..

Bunty: hello.. bagunava.. ? ( are you good??)

Hubby: emmi chesutunavu? ( what r u doing??)

Bunty: kotta dress chupistanu( will show new dress)

Hubby: amma koni ichinda? ( did amma get it??)

Bunty: hmmm.. kinda padi doladute kani amma konivaledu (she got only after I cried and rolled on floor)

Hubby laughed a lot..